1. Thinking back to my childhood memories, I feel:*Neutral, neither here nor there, it was fine. I don’t have many memories.Satisfied, I know I was loved and supported. I have many great memories.Sad and disappointed I have mixed memories: some good and some bad. I can feel hurt thinking about it.Confused, I never knew where to go or whom to depend on. Very few good memories. 2. In a relationship, the thing I need most:*My own space, peace and some independence.To be heard, understood and validated.To feel that I am safe from abuse and I have control.To feel supported and to know that I can count on someone. 3. When you hit a tough spot or conflict arises in your relationships you*Remain optimistic and hopeful that things will all work out.Become anxious and overwhelmed, doubting if you can trust anyone.Can feel worried that things are off track and won't recover.Hope that things work out but doubt that they will. 4. When it comes to making decisions in my life I usually:*Consult with my partner; we make decisions together.Get input from others, I sometimes struggle making up my mind.Am confident with my own decisions.Avoid, I can get confused and don’t know how to choose. 5. When you are upset or under stress you usually calm down by:*Reaching out to friends or my partner. I need to process with others.Either spending time with others or alone. I’m flexible depending on the circumstances.Taking some time alone, I often need some space to process things before I talk to anyone.Avoiding people because I’m not sure who I can trust to help me. 6. In dating or relationships the situations that irritate me most:*I don’t like ambiguity. Not knowing where I stand is difficult for me.I don’t like when people have expectations of me. I prefer things to happen naturally.Many things, I feel awkward and don’t know whom to trust.Not much, partners have told me I'm easy going and flexible. I don't get irritated easily. 7. In my relationships, the thing I fear the most is:*Being hurt: someone rejecting me, cheating on me or leaving me.Wasting time and/or being taken for grantedLosing my independence, being trapped with the wrong person.Being in a compromised position where I can be hurt verbally or physically. 8. Looking at my preferences for being partnered or alone I:*Crave closeness and feel unsettled when I don’t have a partner.Like my independence. I’d prefer to be in a relationship but I don’t need one.Like the balance between having my own life and sharing it with a partner.Worry whether my partner will abuse me or hurt me. I need to protect myself. 9. At the start of a new relationship:*I generally take it slow, I’m a bit cautious.I can fall fast I enjoy sharing my life.I set a good pace what’s the rush?I can get scared or avoid people, what do they want from me? 10. When it comes to expressing negative feelings in my relationships I usually:*Keep it to myself. I don’t like focusing on problems and prefer avoiding tough conversations.Need to bring it up as soon as possible. It feels stressful to wait for resolution.Feel comfortable addressing issues head on and can wait for the right time to talk.Am scared to bring things up, I worry there will be negative repercussions. A Few Questions About You:Gender:FemaleMaleYour age category:*Under 2020-2930-3940-4950-5960-6970+Current Marital Status:*SinglePartneredMarriedHow Long Have You Been Together?*under 5 yearsover 5 yearsGet Your Results:Your Name:* First Your Email:* Subscribe to Secure Notes Sign me up!By checking this box you will be added to the Secure Notes mailing list.Scroll up to see your results.