JoJo Fletcher is this season’s Bachelorette who appears to have a penchant for bad boys. If you can relate to JoJo, keep reading to understand how to best handle them.
If you’ve been watching JoJo’s body language with your volume off you can probably guess which bad boy she’s likely to choose in the end. This season my bet is on Jordan Rodgers, the same guy she gave her first impression rose to. While the first rose is not a telling sign of who will be chosen at the end, it did work that way when Kaitlyn Bristowe chose Shawn Booth. This season is similar as the producers are trying to distract us from her obvious choice, only this time the distracting villain is Chad instead of Nick.
The big difference this season is not how many bad boys the producers picked for JoJo, but the number of them she has kept. Last season I spoke about attachment theory, highlighting that Ben Higgins appeared to be an anxious type also known as a puppy. JoJo is similar to Ben it that it appears that she has some of her own insecurities when it comes to men.
While this blog doesn’t cover why women are attracted to bad boys like kryptonite, you can read the reasons why in my previous post are you choosing the wrong men, again? In this post, I want to dissect how JoJo reacts to men who are bad boys.
Examples of JoJo’s insecure behaviors (thus far):
1. On her two-on-one date with Alex and Chad, she throws Alex under the bus and tells Chad what Alex told her, instead of taking responsibility for her choice with him.
2. When Chad is leaving, she still wants to be seen as a good person, saying, “I gave you a chance Chad!”
3. Before she confronts Jordan about rumors of his cheating, she talks about “How scared she is in bringing up the topic.”
4. Immediately after she confronts Jordan she apologizes, “I think that you’re mad at me. Don’t be mad at me!”
While there are plenty of other examples, JoJo misunderstands one big point! She’s not a contestant on the Bachelor. She is the Bachelorette!
JoJo admits that meeting Ben and being treated with respect and kindness was a great experience for her, but when she gets around bad boys she forgets this lesson and resorts to acting like a young girl.
The two lessons that JoJo can benefit from in order to find secure love are:
- Start acting with more confidence, knowing that finding love means having to say goodbye to good guys.
- Find a way to make yourself equal to men and don’t act as if you are scared or care more about their feelings than your won. Remember when you care more about your partner’s feelings than your own, you are reinforcing this message; you set it up that way.
But without saying more about the fate of JoJo and her bad boy, what lessons can we learn? Ask yourself the following:
- Have I ever let a man make me feel insecure?
- Am I afraid to ask for what I want and need?
- Do I hold myself with respect and require that men treat me the same way?
- Do I believe that confronting a man about his past is an insurance policy against him doing the same to me?
Regardless of JoJo’s insecurities, she is clearly a beautiful woman, while men and women call her HOT, check out this video for what I mean Universal Hot/Crazy Matrix. This model explains that the chances of finding a woman who is hot and not crazy are about as rare as finding a unicorn.
SECURE note: No matter how beautiful people are on the outside, they can be insecure. Confidence in yourself is one of the best things you can wear. Forget the unicorn mask; instead of pretending to be a mythical creature be a secure woman!
What have you learned from JoJo?